One of my best friend's mother will likely die today, after a sudden and unexpected illness. I want to go and hug L., or bring her coffee or a cookie or ANYTHING that will give her the slightest comfort, but she's surrounded by family and I don't think the intrusion would be appropriate. But I ache for her, and cry, and feel helpless, and cry some more. What do you do to lighten a friend's burden when the unthinkable happens, other than call and listen and tell them you love them? Tell me, please, and I'll do it.